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How to show up for yourself in a room full of haters

nikipUpdated on March 27, 2023March 25, 2023Leave a Comment6 min read

Take down the bullies in your life with six tips for staying true to you.

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Sunday funday with @socal.bombers. Love our team!

Sunday funday with @socal.bombers. Love our team! Now recruiting for Fall 2024 season. Follow @wfsasoftball for more info. #wfsa #fastpitchsoftball #softballlife

Dating is a game. The best games to play are both

Dating is a game. The best games to play are both fun and challenging. If you’re not having fun or challenging yourself, then you’re doing it all wrong.

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🚨Note to self: discipline trumps motivation🚨

🚨Note to self: discipline trumps motivation🚨

It’s pretty common for most people to rely on motivation to get things done. We often wait for that surge of inspiration or excitement to propel us forward. However, motivation can be fleeting. It comes and goes, and when it’s gone, it’s easy to lose focus and give up.

On the other hand, discipline is the practice of consistently taking action, regardless of whether we feel motivated or not. It’s about establishing a routine, setting goals, and sticking to them, even when we don’t feel like it. Discipline is the foundation that allows us to make progress, even on days when we lack motivation.

While motivation can be helpful, it’s not always reliable. It’s not always there when we need it the most. That’s why discipline is so important. It pushes us forward even when motivation wanes, helping us stay committed to our goals and achieve long-term success.

May this post serves as a reminder to prioritize discipline over relying solely on motivation. Let this be a reminder to cultivate self-control, consistency, and perseverance in order to achieve our goals, even when motivation is lacking.

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3 ways people sabotage their relationships

1. Avoiding conflict… When you continuously sweep your feelings under the rug in an effort to keep the peace by avoiding difficult conversations, you are setting yourself up for resentment and unresolved tension. Consider this: conflict breeds intimacy. It is often through conflict when we learn the most about ourselves and each other. By engaging in open and honest communication, we can gain a better understanding of each other, come up with mutually-beneficial solutions, and strengthen our bonds.

2. Deflecting responsibility… Receiving difficult feedback can challenge one’s sense of self, triggering our natural defense mechanisms. Unfortunately, this can sometimes lead to unintended harm towards others. When individuals refuse to acknowledge their own role in a given situation, it can put a strain on the relationship and erode trust. Instead of pointing blame to people or situations outside of your control, consider how your default reactions affect others. While you don’t have to take responsibility for someone else’s emotions, you do get to take responsibility for the impact of the things you say and do despite your best intentions.

3. Intellectualizing emotions… This is a common defense mechanism many people use to avoid vulnerability and emotional intimacy. Instead of acknowledging and expressing their true feelings, individuals may rely on logic and rationalization to navigate relationship challenges. While it is important to have intellectual conversations, it is equally important to connect emotionally with your partner. By allowing yourself to be vulnerable and expressing your emotions authentically, you can deepen your emotional connection and foster and stronger bond.

#relationshipstruggles #selfsabotage #relationshipcoach #relationshiprescue #womensupportingwomen #divorcedaf #relationshipbuilding #manifestlove #southbaytherapist #losangelescoach #relationshipcoaching #communicationskillstraining

Cherish the moments that make you smile. #livingc

Cherish the moments that make you smile.

#livingconsciously #holidaymindset #friendsforkeeps

Fun in the sun ☀️ #createyourhappy #liveauth

Fun in the sun ☀️

#createyourhappy #liveauthentic #mindyourmentalhealth

🎥 🔮 ✨ MANIFESTING LOVE: AVOID THIS MISTAKE

🎥 🔮 ✨ MANIFESTING LOVE: AVOID THIS MISTAKE ✨🔮🎥

The number one mistake in manifesting love is becoming too attached to a specific outcome or person. This attachment stems from fear and scarcity, which can repel the love we desire. Instead, we should focus on self-love and worthiness, radiating a magnetic energy that attracts the right people. It’s important to set intentions but also surrender to the divine timing of the universe. Detachment doesn’t mean giving up, but rather releasing the need for control and trusting in the flow of life. By nurturing our own happiness and believing in ourselves, we can manifest a love that exceeds our expectations. Trust the process and have faith that the right person will come into your life at the perfect time.

Remember, you deserve a love that brings joy and fulfillment. Trust yourself and let the magic of manifesting love unfold.

#manifestlove #lovemanifestation #selflovejourney #divinetiming #relationshipgoals #insecuritiesbegone #singleaf #singlewomen

These three books made such a huge difference in m

These three books made such a huge difference in my healing journey.

1️⃣ If the Buddha Dated…. This book was a spiritual handbook for overcoming heartbreak that I didn’t know I needed. This was when I learned about the truth about suffering and how to overcome it

2️⃣ Calling in the One…. This book was like therapy in a book. Half way through the book, I realized the journey I was on was really about me becoming the one.

3️⃣ Soulmate Secrets… This book offered a law of attraction approach to finding love. This was when I started learning about manifestation.

I have a ton of other book recs that have helped me make massive shifts from neurotic to nifty. These are just a few.

What’s one book that totally transformed the way you think about love and relationships?

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Embracing the Paradox: Discovering What We Crave M

Embracing the Paradox: Discovering What We Crave Most in the Things We Avoid

Life is full of unexpected twists and turns, and sometimes, the most profound realizations come when we least expect them. It’s in those moments when we suddenly realize that the thing we’ve been avoiding is, in fact, the very thing we’ve been yearning for deep within our hearts. This beautiful paradox teaches us valuable lessons about self-discovery, growth, and the magic of destiny.

We all have our reasons for avoiding certain things in life. It could be fear, uncertainty, or simply a desire to stay within our comfort zones. We convince ourselves that we don’t need or want those things and create barriers to protect ourselves from potential disappointment or pain. But little do we know that by avoiding them, we unknowingly intensify our longing for them.

Life has a way of gently nudging us towards the things we need to confront. Whether it’s a dream we’ve been suppressing, a relationship we’ve been avoiding, or a passion we’ve been neglecting, the universe has a funny way of bringing these desires to the forefront of our consciousness. And when that moment of awakening arrives, it can be both exhilarating and terrifying.

Embracing the paradox of craving what we’ve been avoiding is a transformative journey of self-discovery. It requires us to confront our fears head-on and peel away the layers of resistance that have held us back. In doing so, we open ourselves up to new possibilities, growth, and a deeper understanding of our true desires.

As we embark on this journey, we must learn to surrender to the magic of destiny. Sometimes, what we resist persists, and what we embrace transforms our lives in unimaginable ways. By releasing our attachment to the outcome and trusting in the greater plan, we allow the universe to guide us towards the fulfillment we seek.

Embrace the paradox of life to explore the depths of your desires and unlock the path to our truest selves. Face your fears, embrace the unknown, and surrender to the magic of destiny. For it is in this surrender that we find the ultimate fulfillment and joy that we’ve been longing for all along.

#existentialkink #selfhelp

My heart feels so full 😊💜 It’s moments li

My heart feels so full 😊💜
It’s moments like these when I feel most alive and connected. Shout out to the fearless baddies who joined me for the ride!

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💔 Complicated Grief: Timeless Tears 💔 In th

💔 Complicated Grief: Timeless Tears 💔

In the depths of my car, hidden from the world, I let my tears flow freely. This reel captures a moment of raw vulnerability, where the weight of complicated grief becomes too heavy to bear. 💔

Grief is not linear; it doesn’t adhere to a timetable. No matter how much time passes, the pain can still wash over us unexpectedly, reminding us of the love and loss we hold so dear. It’s a reminder that healing doesn’t mean forgetting, but rather embracing the complexity of our emotions. 🌹

Through this reel, I invite you to join me in acknowledging the power of emotions and the strength it takes to face them head-on. Let’s create a space where we can openly discuss the intricacies of grief and support one another through the highs and lows. 💛💪

Remember, my friend, you are never alone in your journey. Together, we can navigate the stormy seas of grief, finding solace in shared experiences and nurturing hope for brighter days ahead. Together, we can expand our capacity to love and be loved. 🙏✨

#complicatedgrief #complexgrief #complexgriefrecovery
#embracingemotions #vulnerabilityisstrength #authenticitymatters #singleaf #polyamorouspride #emotionalintelligence #emotionalhealing #emotionregulation

As a conscious relationship coach, I integrate my

As a conscious relationship coach, I integrate my understanding of the subconscious mind with my training as a marriage and family therapist to help individuals heal from heartbreak, live with purpose, and revolutionize their relationships from the inside out. DM me if any of this resonates with you and you’re interested in learning about different ways we can work together.

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